An addictive process and its resolution

Focusing as an antidote to mind manipulation

Behavioral science is being used more and more to “market” political candidates and opinions. According to an article in Motherboard, both the Trump and Brexit campaigns used Facebook data to create personality profiles that could identify the characteristics of voters, enabling messaging that would appeal to their cultural biases. If your personality profile showed that […]

How NVC and Focusing enhance each other

Many of us are dismayed about the violent rhetoric in politics and on social media. We need ways to be able to communicate across social, cultural, economic and political divides. Both Nonviolent Communication and Focusing, when practiced, are accessible tools for change. How NVC enhances Focusing The basic NVC concepts help people learn the Focusing […]

Very human ways to foster resilience

Recently I was treated to a wonderful production of A Lesson From Aloes, by the South African playwright, Athol Fugard, produced by the Hartford Stage in Hartford, CT. The play had a profound affect on me. It shows how friends who have worked together for a common cause can be pulled apart by not being able to […]

Focusing session on the topic of “sharing what I know”

I am going to give you a play-by-play example of Focusing from my own life. Triggering experience: I was at an online meeting with a group of friends. We started meeting over 25 years ago. We all used to live in the same small town, and had formed a support/listening group with each other while […]

Listening Partnerships

To hear yourself think…it helps to have somebody listen! A Listening Partnership is not an ordinary conversation. It sets the stage for a special kind of listening. There are two roles: the Explorer, person who speaks. And there’s the Listener. After the Explorer’s turn, the Listener becomes the Explorer. But, at any one time, one person is either […]

Generating a Culture of Peace: an NVC and Focusing class for activists

Everyone is so inspired and encouraged by the Women’s March. How can we create new ways of acting in the world that directly address today’s political realities and at the same time reflect our deepest needs, goals and values? Marshall Rosenberg’s theory of Nonviolent Communication has a lot to offer as we learn how to […]

The felt sense is a wanting

“Don’t want too much,” the voices warned. No. Want. Want life. Want this fragile oasis of the galaxy to flourish. Want fertility, want seasons, want this spectacular array of creatures, this brilliant balance of need. Want it. Want it all. Desire. Welcome her raging power. May her strength course through us. Desire, she is life. […]

Creative thinking partnerships

I recently had the pleasure of being interviewed by Serge Prengel of LifeSherpa.com. You can listen to the interview here. We were talking about the joys and difficulties inherent in forming creative thinking partnerships. This is the first part of the interview. Serge: We all are interested in thinking creatively, thinking outside the box, and […]