From your first Focusing session, you will understand that Focusing is learning to trust your own inner sense of things. There is no diagnosing or analyzing or counseling.
First, I’ll encourage you to relax and get comfortable. Even though my classes and individual sessions are online, I try to create a cozy atmosphere, as if we were sitting in the rocking chairs in my living room.
When you’re ready, you’ll take some time to name the issue you are working on. In the process of naming the issue, you clarify things for yourself, and prepare yourself for felt sensing. You can give your issue a name that only you will understand, if you want, like What Happened with My Partner, or Feeling Stuck at Work, or What I Long To Do.
As you name your issue, I’ll encourage you to allow yourself plenty of empathic space. Self-empathy is essential to Focusing. It helps you open up to what you feel about the issue you have named.
What does a felt sense feel like?
Often, when we feel something inside, it’s hard to put it into words. It feels fuzzy and vague. You’ll have plenty of time to gently allow words to emerge from the unclear feeling, thus coming into focus. I will encourage you to give gentle attention to what is happening inside and find a way to say it that feels right to you. If words don’t work, you might draw it, or express it in sound or gestures.
You may have something inside that feels like a pressure, or a color, or a shape or a texture. A memory might come to you, or an image. I will listen and reflect back what you have said in order to help you stay with your felt sense. As you describe it and gently attend to it, it reveals its meaning.
When you get its meaning, you feel different inside. You see the issue from a new perspective, or you have more of a sense of possibility, or you see a way forward that you didn’t see before.
All of this is done in total confidentiality. In fact, I don’t need to know any of the details of your issue. You just need to tell me is how the whole situation feels in your body. You can keep the rest to yourself, if you like. Only share what feels safe and right to share.
Ongoing Focusing training
All my Focusing trainings are online. That makes them available to people all over the world.
You can have your first Focusing session anytime, starting with a free, 30-minute introductory session.
If Focusing is something you’d like to pursue, sign up for individual sessions ($75 per hour) or a series of three sessions for beginning Focusers ($195), or a Basic Focusing class (6 weeks for $295).