Thanks for telling us about this, Nicola! I’m glad Donna’s class was inspiring and that she started with a guided process to help you settle into the felt sense of the paradox. I have always had trouble with that step. It will be interesting to see if you feel that starting with Steps 2, 3, 4, and 5 would be better than jumping to Steps 6 and 7.…

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Thanks, Nicky!

Hi Nicola,

This is an important learning–it feels right that you could have a free Focusing session after the logicalness of working with words. I used to include something that I learned from Evelyn, which was taking a pause in mid-TAE and drawing. So instead of saying whether it should be Focusing or drawing, it feels life-giving to pause…

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Dear Rosy,

Thanks for taking the time to check out some of the authors I’m reading now. It’s good that you could acknowledge the initial feeling of “going to school without having the homework done.” There will be many moments like that, because we can’t do homework for situations that we’ve never encountered before. Once you acknowledged…

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Hello friends,

My life has taken a unexpected but exciting turn that I want to share with you. I’ve been accepted to a Masters program in Ecopsycholgy at Naropa University in Boulder, Colorado. I just knew, after my first conversation with one of the main professors, that this would be a place where Focusing, TAE and Gendlin’s philosophy would…

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I’ve been in Between, but I can’t say anything definite about it.

Working with people who are not experienced with Focusing partnership is a unique challenge of being in LfL.

In my small group classes, I do not accept Focusers who have no experience in partnership because there the partnership practices are outside the class.

So you are offering a unique experience that is difficult to find in the TAE world.…

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Dear Rosy and all,

So glad that you see this forum as a place wher you can communicate with us when you are feeling vulnerable. That’s what it’s for, and it’s a wonderful way to learn from our own experience.

It seems totally understandable that you would feel tired when doing the LFL meeting or the Tertulia PLUS two partnership sessions the…

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Marta Fab–Glad to know that it’s feeling good to both of you, and that you are sensing in to the quality of your partnership as well as the program. That’s a whole new aspect that we can develop with time. Feels important.

Dear Nicola Jane,

Somehow I missed your post from June 6 about the TAE Process. I think it would make a great discussion topic in the general Forum and am working with Marta W to make that happen.

Dear Michaël,

Yes, these issues can come up in your partnerships.

At those moments I’m grateful that we have this private forum. You could say, “I’m not sure how to answer that, I’ll check”, and then you can write to us here and we’ll work it out.

Nicky’s TAE partner was not exactly asking a question, but saying she was “frustrated that my…

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Hi everyone, I realize that there are a lot of changes that have been made to the original document I sent you back in February. So here is an update to the basic information about our program.

LISTENING FOR LIFE TAE FACILITATOR TRAINING PROGRAM

Once people learn to listen to the bodily felt sense of situations, they can partner with each other…

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Have fun with your new partners!

Hi Nicola and everyone,

Something very similar happened in my class yesterday. V is entering deeply into her own process in a way that feels like the steps would be an interruption. She is definitely in a transformative place. She did come up with another instance yesterday and it did confirm and expand the pattern she was working on. But she is…

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Thanks, Michaël!

In doing the updates to the Gendlin videos in the course, I was trying to make the order less confusing, and to provide more info about important steps.

At first I didn’t have a Gendlin video for Class One, but i decided to include the one in which he talks about what he is going to work on. He mentions the Hollow Brick for the first time.…

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Glad to hear about your experiences with Instances and Patterns Nicola-Jane.

it’s great that even though “once again, she initially doubted her ability to come up with instances, by supporting her to stay with that feeling, and the realisations and patterns that surfaced through this, it became its own instance. She was then able to…

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Merci beaucoup, Michaël. This is helpful. Thanks for your initiative.

To make it grammatically correct, it would be good to remove the final “S” when referring to a single step.

For instance:

“Steps 1 and 2” is correct because there are 2.

But Step 5 is only one, so should not have an s at the end.

Once people are satisfied with this clarification…

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This is a clear depiction of crossing that I think will help people.

In the Class 2 illustration, it is fun to see the little hands handing instances, a challenging thing to convey. I couldn’t read the parts that had a red background.

I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying your partnership, Nicky!

Hi Nicola,

Ask your TAE buddy to recall one moment from her experience of being angry at school. It might not come at once, but it will if she gives it time.

If you watch Gene’s TAE Trail 6, Amazing Space Arrangement, at 9:12 you see him making this gesture of picking something up between his thumb and index finger and examining it.

That is…

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Looking forward to seeing your handbook, Nicky!

It’s good to see how each of you is approaching this in your own way, being open to what you and your partner need.

I wanted to quote from a letter I received from Nicky’s partner last week, (She had taken a class from me years ago, so she felt free to write to me) because it touches on the awareness of using “big words”–words that already…

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Thanks for this example of an introductory letter, Nicola!

Dear Nicola,

Thanks so much for knowing my blog so well that you can point to the TAE Empowers Us blog entry. I just re-read it and it is a darn good article.

Thinking at the Edge empowers us

Following the feedback from your TAE “buddy” (should we start calling them “buddies” or is there another more…

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Hello everyone,

Thanks for diving in and starting a disussion, Nicola!

i would like all of you to post your experiences and questions from each class here.

Rosy, Step O refers to the introductory meeting that you have with your new partner, where you both share about what you would like to work on in TAE. So it’s not necessary to watch the…

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Here’s a link to a pdf of the article.

https://possibility-space.com/wp-content/uploads/Gendlin-THE-SMALL-STEPS-BBedits-May-2025.pdf