Stress is Love and “awaring”

I asked my body what its experience of stress is.   I explored the steps involved in the Thinking at the Edge protocol and found much to my amazement that what I came up with was very different than the starting point although nothing was lost in the exploration.  The following is my conclusion thus far. […]

Welcome difficulty

Welcome difficulty. Learn the alchemy True Human Beings know: the moment you accept what troubles you’ve been given, the door opens. Welcome difficulty as a familiar comrade. Joke with torment brought by a friend. Sorrows are the rags of old clothes and jackets that serve to cover, and then are taken off. That undressing and […]

El hermanamiento–Sistering

The mango trees flourish behind the walls topped with razor wire I see your eyes beautiful sister your eyes tell me that we walk the same path La lucha continúa the struggle goes on but with tears of love with walls coming down with hearts that are no longer afraid to feel what is there […]

Focusing: A Self-Help Tool for Self-Awareness and Emotional Healing

By Ruth Hirsch, MSW, MPH Naomi was outwardly happy, active in her community and her children’s schools, and working part-time in a satisfying job when she came to see me. “I’d really like to get in shape, but just don’t seem to be able to stay on a diet, or get the exercise I know […]

Origins of Thinking at the Edge

“TAE stems from my course called “Theory Construction” which I taught for many years at the University of Chicago. Students came to it from many fields. The course consisted half of philosophy and logic, half of the difficult task of getting students to attend to what they implicitly knew but could not say and never […]

The right to be me

Today I had a welcome call from my longtime collaborator, Dr Juan Prado of México, DF. We ended up doing some Focusing. Here is what came for me: Self empathy (Domain Focusing), or the Caring-Feeling Presence (Bio-spiritual Focusing), or Presence (Inner Relationship Focusing) are all ways of talking about the attitude of friendliness and openness […]

We are possible

Science tells us we are basically machines, that consciousness, meaning, and spirituality are Impossible…and yet… Since we humans are here, we can be certain that we are not impossible. A conceptual model of “reality” that makes us seem impossible has to have something wrong with it. — Eugene Gendlin, A Process Model, Chapter III For […]

Meeting with NVC empathizers for Occupy Wall Street

This afternoon, 4 “empathizers” showed up on the daily conflict resolution call from 4-6. There was Jesse from North Carolina, Harald from Portugal, Jonathan from Scotland, and myself. There were no “takers” for our services, so we ended up having a fascinating discussion for 2 hours. The calls that Jonathan and Jesse have been in […]

Focusing is simple, basic self care at the deepest level

Focusing is a simple way of connecting with our deeper selves.  In the rush of our everyday lives it can be hard to reach inside and get a deeper sense of what we are truly experiencing.  It can be hard to reach beyond the habits that define our lives.  For me, focusing with another person […]

How listening and being heard brings hope

“She just didn’t hope. Didn’t know how to begin to hope. I imagine that after thirty years the machinery for hoping requires more than twenty-four hours to get started, to get into motion again….. “And she was still groping, you see. She was still trying to find something which that mind which had apparently not […]